Breaking the Cycle: My Shift with Food & Exercise

For most of my life, I thought my relationship with food and movement was like playing a game. One where the rules where written in a foreign language. Where the software was always being upgraded so new rules introduced. A game that had no real end.

If I could just find the right balance—eat the right foods, do the right workouts, follow the right rules—then I’d finally feel comfortable in my body.

So I tried. Hard.

I counted, I calculated, I controlled. I made plans. I followed strict routines. If I just get this right, I told myself, then I’ll feel good in my body.

But I never did.

No matter how much I learned or how many new habits I adopted, I still felt like I was failing. Like I wasn’t there yet. Like I needed to do more, be more, try harder.

And then, at some point, I had a thought:

👉 What if there was never anything to fix in the first place?

The Hidden Rules We Live By

I didn’t realise how many unspoken rules I had absorbed over the years. They were so ingrained, I never even thought to question them:

✔ Staring at my reflection after eating—just to tear myself down.
✔ Running endless food equations in my head—"If I eat this, I have to do X workout tomorrow."
✔ Silencing cravings, as if wanting certain foods meant I was weak.
✔ Over-exercising, then “treating” myself to something bad—only to eat too much and end up right back in the same cycle.

And the worst part? I thought this was normal. I thought it was discipline. I thought this was what being “healthy” looked like.

Why Do We Mistrust Ourselves So Much?

Diet culture sells us more than weight loss. It sells us distrust.

We’re taught not to trust our own bodies. That we need someone else—an expert, a tracker, an app—to tell us when to eat, what to eat, and how much to move.

We internalise this so deeply that we stop listening to ourselves. Instead, we:

🚫 Ignore hunger because we “shouldn’t be hungry yet.”
🚫 Push through exhaustion because “movement doesn’t count unless it’s intense.”
🚫 Feel guilty for resting because “we should be doing more.”

But what happens when we start unlearning all of this?

The Shift: What If It Could Be Easy?

Through the Unbecoming programme, I started questioning everything.

✨ Why have I clung to these rules?
✨ Who do they actually serve?
✨ What if I let them go?

At first It felt strange. I was so used to playing by the rules that breaking them felt like I was cheating and that didn’t sit that well.

But at the same time, I also felt… free.

This holiday, for the first time in years, I haven’t been obsessing over every meal. I wasn’t using exercise as punishment. I was just—eating, moving, enjoying.

No panic. No guilt. No mental spreadsheets.

Just… freedom.

An Invitation to Unlearn

I don’t have all the answers, and maybe that’s the point.

But if any of this resonates—if you’ve ever found yourself stuck in the exhausting cycle of overthinking food, movement, or your body—I highly recommend Unbecoming.

It’s helped me untangle so many of the beliefs I thought were just “the way it is.” If you’ve ever felt preoccupied with food, exercise, or body image, this program is a game-changer.

And the best part? You can join the first session for free this week. Join here.

Come check it out—you won’t regret it.

Kim x